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18 Musical Moms Talk Motherhood

May 7, 2011  |  11:22pm
Kori Gardner
Mates of State
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Song: “Get Better”

Names and ages of your kids:
Magnolia, age 6; June, age 3.

How does having children and being a mother change the way you approach your career?
I appreciate my time more. It used to be whenever I felt like playing music, or playing a show, or recording, we could just be spontaneous. Now I savor those moments as an artist. With kids I focus on them when it’s their time and music when it’s work time.

Every time we set up a tour we have to be cognizant about school stuff, about how much is feasible with kids, etc. Also, because of being a touring musician and mother, I’m currently starting a new side business called ChARTer Nannies—which is essentially hooking up touring bands and artists with touring nannies.

What’s the best part about being both a musician and a mom?
Taking my kids on tour with me, setting our own hours, showing my daughters that you really can do what you want with your life and now that they are getting older we are having some sweet family jam sessions.

What’s the most difficult part about being both a musician and a mom?
Sometimes I wish had more routine and a set schedule in my life. Parenting is always easier that way—kids thrive on routine. But I’m guess I’m teaching them how to be adaptable and flexible.

What does your kid think of your music?
They ask for it sometimes and other times they say, can we please stop listening to your new song…

Right now Magnolia has four things on her iPod: Free Energy (whom we toured with—she cried when the tour ended), Cyndi Lauper, “Hey Soul Sister” by Train (kids in class have been singing it) and the entire Mates of State catalog. And they are good little sounding boards—kids are brutally honest when something isn’t instantaneous and perfectly sincere about what they like.

Shara Worden
My Brightest Diamond
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Photo: Michael Wright / Song: “Inside A Boy”

Name and age of your kid:
Constantine, 9 months.

How does having a child and being a mother change the way you approach your career?
I definitely think about economizing my time and energy, especially when taking on new projects. I’m more aware that when I say yes to one thing, I am saying no to something (or someone) else. In many ways life does not look that different, because I have been in writing and recording mode. After we do a bunch of touring in the fall I might have a different story.

What’s the best part about being both a musician and a mom?
Having a life dedicated to art making is exhilarating and it also comes with a lot of sacrifices. I’m really thankful that I waited as long as I did to have a child, but also that I didn’t sacrifice this experience of being a mother, for having a life in music. So far, the best part of motherhood is having this very unique kind of love, awe and wonder for someone.

What’s the most difficult part about being both a musician and a mom?
Missing out on my son’s first ride in a swing… It’s hard to miss out on the firsts in his life because I am working. And also, there are times when I don’t dedicate my time to a musical project, as I once would have. Sometimes I fall short, but I have to accept that what I have to give in each place of my life is enough.

What does your kids think of your music?
Constantine loves watching people’s fingers while they are playing guitar and he could stare at a drummer forever. It’s fun to see him soaking up music with his eyes and ears and body.

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