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Lynn Truell
Imperial Teen
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Song: “Yoo Hoo”

Names and ages of your kids:
Lily, age 7; Jake, age 6; Lukas age 3.

How does having children and being a mother change the way you approach your career?
The amount of time it takes to run and household and take care of three small children is something I had never realized. That said, finding time to write and practice has been mostly difficult for me. Although I do have a small studio in my basement, being left alone for more than 10 minutes can be hard with everyone home. I find the best stuff comes out of me when I have an idea and run down to the basement and get it on tape, or I try and get a drumbeat on the spot; it is very random and impulsive.

What’s the best part about being both a musician and a mom?
Being a musician and a mom is cool for me and cool for my kids. They like having the instruments around. I like sharing my past—songs and photos and videos—with them, although they don’t seem very impressed. Other moms seem to like that I’m a musician.

What’s the most difficult part about being both a musician and a mom?
It is nearly impossible for me to tour for any length of time—couple of days at most.

What do your kids think of your music?
They like some of the poppy songs a lot, but as I stated earlier…well, I wish they were more impressed—they think all that happened in the ‘olden days!’


Kate O’Brien-Clarke
AgesandAges
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Song: “No Nostalgia”

Name and age of your kid:
Nils Patrick, 8 months.

How does having a child and being a mother change the way you approach your career?
I’ve always tried to maintain a balanced life—music, relationships, good health, earning money. I have a history of taking on more projects than is normal for one person. Now, with our son in the mix, I have to say no to things in order to maintain balance. At risk of sounding like Tiger Mother, he does not always come first. Sometimes I do. I wholeheartedly agree that a happy and healthy Mom helps to create a happy and healthy child. I must continue to create music and spend time with my violin or else it all goes to hell, which of course negatively affects Nils. At the end of the day, whatever energy I expend must have a positive and fruitful return.

What’s the best part about being both a musician and a mom?
Setting a living example for my son that art is necessary and possible. I sleep soundly at night knowing our boy has parents who walk their talk. My husband Jay is Ash Black Bufflo and also plays in Dolorean and Grails.

What’s the most difficult part about being both a musician and a mom?
Well so far… making it work to tour. Ask me again in a year and who knows what I’ll say.

What does your kid think of your music?
Well, he’s only eight months old but I swear I’ve seen him smile and laugh at certain tunes and not others. But who knows what he really thinks?


Rebekah Goode-Peoples
Oryx and Crake
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Photo: Max Blau / Song: “Fun Funeral”

Names and ages of your kids:
Sebastian Rhys, age 7 ¾; Isobel Laurence, age 2.

How does having children and being a mother change the way you approach your career?
When you have kids, there are a limited number of hours that you can spend on your own creative work, especially when you still have a day job. There are many things I’d love to do and would love to make time for, like knitting or writing novels or going to grad school, but I don’t because I want to be a great mom. You have to be really, really choosy. I chose music—or music chose me—and so, besides mothering and teaching, that’s what I do. All the time.

What’s the best part about being both a musician and a mom?
My husband and I write all the music together and play in the band together, so we’re modeling a certain kind of partnership for our kids. They see us being creative together and spending our time making music rather than watching TV, and they’ve followed suit. I love feeling like I’ve played some part in encouraging them to pursue their own passions and spend their time meaningfully.

What’s the most difficult part about being both a musician and a mom?
When you’re about to go on stage, and you realize you have kid shmutz all over your dress—drool, throw-up, chocolate milk—I’ve performed wearing it all. But seriously… Touring. The idea of doing more extensive touring is both fantastic and terrifying. I love music and I love my band. But my first commitment is to my children. My dream is to make like Sonic Youth or Mates of State and take the kids on the road with us. My husband and I are both teachers by trade, so we could definitely educate them while touring. It would be a chaotic and amazing adventure.

Also, I need more sleep. A lot more sleep.

What do your kids think of your music?
They must like something about it because they want to play music all the time themselves. Sebastian creates very Daft Punkish songs in Garage Band and listens to everything from Bowie to Bieber to Bon Iver on his headphones. Izzy sings “Lullaby #1” with me every night before bed. She sang songs before she said sentences—probably because she was slung to me during our practices for the first year of her life. And she should probably stick to songs because her first sentence, after falling on her booty in the bath, was “What the hell!”

I’m clearly doing a standup job as a mom.


Olof Arnalds
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Photo: Max Blau / Song: “Surrender”

Name and age of your kid:
Ari, age 3.

How does having a child and being a mother change the way you approach your career?
It’s made me more focused and task oriented as I no longer have all the time in the world to myself.

What’s the best part about being both a musician and a mom?
The playfulness.

What’s the most difficult part about being both a musician and a mom?
Not being able to have uninterrupted sleep during the hours that I like sleeping in.

What does your kid think of your music?
I don’t know. I don’t play my own material around the house and prefer to work and practice in solitude.


Kelli Scarr
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Song: “Break Up”

Name and age of your kid:
Liam, age 4.

How does having a child and being a mother change the way you approach your career?
Watching a human grow every day right before my eyes makes me think of each new musical endeavor or song as a part of a life’s work. His sense of wonder is contagious. I am approaching music with a wider lens.

What’s the best part about being both a musician and a mom?
The best part is the heightened respect I feel from my peers and the support of the musician-parent community that surrounds me.

What’s the most difficult part about being both a musician and a mom?
The most difficult part is missing each other when I’m out on the road. During a recent tour I called home to check in and Liam started crying and was asking when I’d be coming back. I told him that I’d be home in four days, to which he replied, “Mommy, I don’t know what four days is!” My heart just about broke.

What does your kid think of your music?
He isn’t quite old enough to articulate his thoughts on music, but I can definitely tell that he gravitates towards the more uptempo stuff—songs he can dance to. Sadly, most of my mid-tempo songs don’t fit into this category. Liam would be stoked if I made an entire album that sounded like Kanye West’s “American Boy.”


Caithlin De Marrais
Rainer Maria
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Song: “Artificial Light”

Name and age of your kid:
Oscar, age 2 1/2.

How does having a child and being a mother change the way you approach your career?
I take more risks with my music. I jump into new things without the hesitation I might have felt before. It’s helped me believe in something bigger than myself, so you also could say I’ve been humbled by the experience.

What’s the best part about being both a musician and a mom?
Sharing my love and experience of music with my son.

What’s the most difficult part about being both a musician and a mom?
Being patient.

What does your kid think of your music?
My son is a little too young to ask him, but he does ask me to take out my bass guitar and play along to my songs while he jumps around on the couch, stopping on occasion to give me a vice-like hug around my neck. I think that means he likes it.

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