33 Musical Dads Discuss Fatherhood
Dimitri Coats
OFF!
Name and age of your kids:
Veronica Coats, 2.5 years; Charles William Coats II, 3 months.
How does having children and being a father change the way you approach your career?
It’s made me grow up a lot and pay more attention to the business side of what happens behind the scenes. I manage OFF! A band is not unlike a child and this one is growing out of control. Hard to keep up sometimes. There are three dads in OFF! We’re all hoping things continue the way they have so we can continue to provide for our families. We’re very luckily that something we love doing has caught on to where people are willing to pay for it. It drives us to be the best we can be. We’re not in our 20’s anymore. It’s not about the party. We’re on a mission. We have mouths to feed.
What’s the best part about being both a musician and a dad?
My daughter is fascinated by the guitar. She lights up when I play for her and lately she’s been trying to figure out how to make sound. She requests The Ramones and sings along. It’s pretty cute. She has a little toy piano and we pretend to write songs together. It’s a trip to see she has that in her already. I look forward to jamming with her one day for real and I’d be lying if I said I don’t care whether or not she falls in love with music. I wanna share that with her.
What’s the most difficult part about being both a musician and a dad?
Being on the road. They’re too little to understand why I’m away for weeks on end. I miss them a lot.
What do your kids think of your music?
Veronica actually loves OFF! “Darkness” is her favorite song. I play her the video and she jumps up and down screaming, “Daddy Uncle Keith!” My wife took her to an outdoor festival we played. She got real serious and absorbed the whole thing. She connects with fun music that also has attitude. It’s a good sign.
What kind of music do your kids currently enjoy? Do you approve of their current tastes?
Well, she prefers the Stones over the Beatles. Have to work on that. Ha. There’s a CD that’s stuck in the car with a bunch of children’s songs on it. The versions are crap but “I’ve Been Working on the Railroad” is unfortunately a big hit. Charles is pretty young. He gets real quiet and still when we put on Pet Sounds by The Beach Boys. Another good sign.
Have you attempted to immerse your kids in music? How have they responded?
I play them a lot of classic rock, blues and sometimes throw in some classical music for good measure. Haven’t hit them with anything too intense like metal or power violence. Same reason they aren’t exposed to horror movies. We want them to have nice dreams.
If yes, what instruments do play? And what do their early musical attempts sound like?
Veronica loves any instrument she can get her hands on. Drums are particularly fascinating. Kids like to whack stuff. She enjoys trying to sing what she’s playing on the piano. Her voice goes up relative to what her hands are doing on the keys. She’s only two and a half but I can tell she has that thing for music and it’s not just because she’s my daughter. That girl is gonna rock.
Laurent Lebec
Pelican