To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before

To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before, the teen scene’s newest runaway hit, is a flat-out excellent film.
It is not excellent “for a teen flick.” It is not excellent “for a romantic comedy.” It is excellent for a film. It is, as I noted in my love letter to it in Paste’s TV Power Rankings the week following its triumphant non-theatrical release on Netflix, the kind of film that makes a person want to drop everything and go to film school. Or, at least, drop everything and watch it three time times in one weekend—which, if Twitter is any indication, is what just about every person who has pressed Play since it premiered has done (at minimum—I’m on watch #5).
Adapted from Jenny Han’s YA novel of the same title, TATBILB (as its legion of superfans often refer to it) hardly needs championing. In the few weeks the film has been a part of our cultural landscape, TATBILB has received such a wave of love, both emotional and critical, that it appears primed to single-handedly propel the teen rom-com genre into a new golden age. In fact, between it and the other sweet rom-com featuring an Asian-American lead to premiere the same weekend (Constance Wu’s theatrically released Crazy Rich Asians), the rom-com seems ready for a resurgence. (The two films landed on the Fandometrics Movies list at #1 and #3 the Monday following their premieres, and have since not budged.)
That said, we live in bruising, cynical times; any opportunity to bend enthusiastically toward joy ought to be seized. So please, I entreat you—pause your nightly stream of Lara Jean Covey and Peter Kavinsky falling in googly-eyed, fake-dating love, and let’s explore just how cinematically excellent the journey of their googly-eyed, fake-dating love is.
Act 1: All in Your Feelings
So many romantic comedies hinge on their protagonists engaging in various states of emotional dishonesty for the first eighty minutes of the film, then spending the last twenty learning the life-changing lesson that whoa—it turns out, emotional honesty is … good? This is fine! I’ve watched 10 Things I Hate about You’s Katarina Stratford tearfully recite a poem about the lies she told herself to keep from opening up her heart to all the hunky Australian dudes (and less hunky American sisters) in her life a billion times, and I can still barely manage to tell my best friends that I love them. I am grateful for Kat Stratford’s emotionally honest final-act epiphany; I will never stop needing Kat Stratford’s emotionally honest final-act epiphany. I just don’t need every rom-com to take Kat Stratford(/Shakespeare)’s slow emotional learning curve as a model.
TATBILB fully inverts the 80/20 ratio: Within the first twenty minutes, all five of the deeply private love letters our daydreamy, emotionally buttoned-up protagonist Lara Jean (Lana Condor) has written to her childhood crushes over the years have been stolen and mailed out—including the one to her neighbor and best friend, Josh (Israel Broussard), who just happens to also be her older sister’s just barely ex-boyfriend. This swift puncturing of any protracted emotional dishonesty Lara Jean might have hoped to indulge in, well, forever, leaves the film’s final eighty minutes free for her to embrace some really radical emotional honesty. That TATBILB allows Lara Jean to accomplish this not in spite of but through the fanfic-favorite trope of “fake dating” another, less-risky letter recipient (Noah Centineo’s ridiculously charming Peter Kavinsky) is a story strength. Yes, the fake dating set-up allows Lara Jean to put off the emotionally fraught confrontation with Josh she knows she’ll eventually need to have, but the animal instinct to flee from that confrontation is so strong, it propels her (like, physically) into a more intimate, genuinely guileless kind of honesty in every other part of her life—first with Peter, then with newfound confidante Lucas (Trezzo Mahoro), then with Margot and Kitty (Janel Parrish and Anna Cathcart), then (finally) with Josh, then (again, at last, in love) with Peter, but always, every step of the way, with herself.
Kat Stratford’s final act emotional epiphany will always be part of the teen rom-com’s DNA, but Lara Jean’s openness to sustained emotional honesty will forevermore be its wholesome, beating heart.