Kaufman Grapples with Dissociation Again in I’m Thinking of Ending Things

There’s a running situation (it can’t really be called a “gag”) in his 2008 film Synechdoche, New York that encapsulates the feeling present throughout Charlie Kaufman’s latest, I’m Thinking of Ending Things, adapted quite faithfully from the novel by Iain Reid. In the former film, one of the main character’s love interests drives past a house that is for sale and on a whim heads inside to look at it. The house is on fire—literally flaming, with smoke curling up out of holes in the wall—the realtor and the woman both remark on it. She buys the house anyway, and the narrative just continues, occasionally returning to her house as decades pass. With each visit, the smoke is thicker, the flames higher, until she dies of smoke inhalation.
The point I picked up from this is that she has a problem with running toward situations that are obviously dangerous and self-destructive and stupid. But that’s me. It’s metaphorical in a way that resists easy interpretation, and you’re supposed to get from it what you yourself get from it. It is how an addled theater director whose life is crumbling would interpret it on a stage, leaving that last crucial bit of epiphany to the audience.
I was sure I’m Thinking of Ending Things had to have been hammered into a different shape to fit director Charlie Kaufman’s peculiarities since he is not, as a general rule, a guy whose narratives fit neatly into the conceptions of others. As it turns out, Reid’s novel so perfectly expresses Kaufman’s obsessions that he ends up needing to change very little. Dissociation and alienation are evident themes right from the jump, and even Kaufman’s teardown of the ending may do a better job of conveying Reid’s central idea than Reid’s own book does. Kaufman is a director who seems to delight in surreal, liminal spaces, and Reid’s book (spoiler alert) takes place in nothing but.
Jake knew we were going to end it. Somehow he knew. We never told him. We were only thinking about it. But he knew.
An unnamed (really a many-named) young woman (Jessie Buckley) and her boyfriend of the moment, Jake (Jesse Plemons), are driving up to meet his parents for dinner on a secluded old farmstead in the midst of a winter storm. She is thinking of breaking it off with Jake but can’t bring herself to do it for myriad reasons: It requires effort, maybe it’s a mistake to write him off, maybe she should settle, maybe she’ll miss out on whatever goodness he could bring to her life. She doesn’t not like him, she just doesn’t love him, and now she’s worried that her coming to his parents’ house will send the wrong message to him. But what else can she do but say, “yes?”
Over the course of the book and the film, the woman tells us about how the two met and why she is thinking of ending things, interspersed between scenes of her navigating an extremely awkward evening with Jake and his parents (played in various stages of decrepitude by Toni Collette and David Thewlis). All the while, she is being called by some strange man who leaves cryptic messages on her voicemail, seemingly calling from her own number. (The woman is unnamed in the book, but the movie somewhat confusingly keeps giving her a different name for reasons that will become clear—this isn’t very well explained in scenes when she’s answering her phone and there’s a different name on the caller ID each time.)
Both book and film end roughly the same way, and in both cases we feel the dread of it coming long before it arrives: The woman does not really exist. Jake is fabricating her as part of an elaborate coping mechanism for a life of missed opportunities, isolation and alienation. We are joining him as this elaborate fabrication proceeds to its logical endpoint, where he can’t escape his own belief that he inevitably drives potential lovers away. And so the fiction unravels and he ends things.
How film and book arrive at that same conclusion in different ways makes I’m Thinking of Ending Things, film and book, one of the most interesting adaptations I can think of in years.