Since my nine-year-old daughter was diagnosed as high-functioning autistic in November 2016, I’ve come to realize that she is not the only child who’s autism flew under the radar, camouflaged, it seems, behind her intellect.
She said her first word at three months, was speaking in full sentences by 10 months and could read silently at 15 months. I found out by accident one night, when at bedtime, I mentioned to my husband which book I was going to select for story-time. Before I could get up from her toddler-bed, she scrambled to her bookshelf, dropped to her knees, and proceeded to scan the spines of each title, her eyes following her index finger as a guide. When she finally found the right book, somewhere in the middle of the second shelf, she squealed in delight and ran back to me with her prize. When I shared this story with her pediatrician, he nodded when I noted how my toddler expressed excitement at showing me what she could do and how she snuggled against me for her beloved story time.
Diagnosis: Gifted.
According to the National Association for Gifted Children, there are specific traits and characteristics that a child must exhibit in order to considered gifted. These include unusual alertness, rapid learning, intense feelings and reactions and deep or insightful thinking. Gifted children also tend to display extreme focus in one area and are often highly sensitive.
Autism is a neurological disorder defined by its affect on the person’s ability to communicate, socialize and behave in socially appropriate ways. Those with autism often struggle with sensitivities to light, sound and other factors in their environment. Many also experience difficulty in expressing emotion and are often believed to lack empathy, as they struggle to understand that others may think and feel differently. Autism, most importantly, is a spectrum disorder, with individuals demonstrating a wide variance in how they are affected. The core issues involve deficits in communication and social interaction.
The Davidson Institute, a private foundation serving profoundly gifted children up to the age of 18, cites observed characteristics common to gifted kids and those with ASD, which include:
1. Verbal fluency or precocity
2. Excellent memories
3. Fascination with letters or numbers
4. Specialized areas of focus or interest
5. Hypersensitivity to sensory stimuli
6. Memorization of factual information at an early age
My child checked nearly every box, impressing us all in kindergarten by reading at a third-grade level. She was obsessed with the digestive system and could name every organ in our body involved in the process and had an equal fascination with the giant squid, and would lock up physically and emotionally, grunting and distressed, when challenged or upset. With time, and plenty of trial and error, we learned that if we “didn’t poke the little bear,” leaving her to self-regulate, we would avoid the meltdown that came when she wasn’t given the silence and space she needed to calm down. And yet, with every issue we came to accept as normal and learn how to deal on our own terms, we were still being petted on the head and reminded that gifted kids are difficult whenever we asked if her teachers were sure there wasn’t another issue at play.