The Men of Younger on #MeToo, Playing the Hunk, and More
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I’d meant to title this feature on Younger’s fifth season slightly differently—until Nico Tortorella bristled at the suggestion.
“My first response to your question is a follow-up question,” says the actor, who plays Josh, an impetuous tattoo artist, on TV Land’s delightfully brisk comedy. “Why are you calling this ‘The Boys of Younger’ and not ‘The Men of Younger’?
It’s a term I thought harmless — “I met a boy at the bar last night,” a common part of my lexicon, might refer to any man under 40 — but of course that’s the point: The way we discuss sex and gender is often indicative of our culture’s profound problems with both. As Tortorella’s co-star Peter Hermann notes, these phrases “make up the steaming pile of shit that we’ve used to excuse male behavior.”
“He’s from a different generation,” says Hermann, who plays gallant publishing executive Charles Brooks on the series, running through a handful of the most familiar examples. That’s just a guy being a guy. Boys will be boys. He doesn’t mean it. He’s just joking around.”
Though Younger has always had its finger on the cultural pulse—among its many charms are its brilliant takedowns of literary figures from Karl Ove Knausgård to Marie Kondo—the subject of #MeToo comes up not simply because it’s in the ether, but because the series, created by Sex and the City’s Darren Star, confronts it head on. In the season premiere, ”#LizaToo,” protagonist Liza Miller (Sutton Foster) finds herself in a difficult position with the lecherous Edward L.L. Moore (Richard Masur), a cash cow for the publisher who’s been accused of making “lewd and inappropriate comments” to women. To Younger’s credit, the episode works through a range of responses to the allegations: Liza, afraid to rock the boat, describes Moore as a flirty old man; Charles and Diana (Miriam Shor) arrange a training seminar; unscrupulous up-and comer Zane Anders (Charles Michael Davis) waves off the accusation as part of a smear campaign from a rival publisher. Similarly, my interviews with the male members of the main cast are reflective of the halting progress we’ve made in naming, much less addressing, sexual harassment, misconduct, and abuse.
“There are probably few, if any, men, who don’t have some hard thinking to do about the attitudes that they have had towards women,” Hermann says. “The tricky thing is that they are so ingrained in our culture that they are all but unconscious. That doesn’t mean that men need to be taken to task any less for them, but I think that the societal attitudes that have led to the necessity of this seismic moment of #MeToo and #TimesUp—it’s in the water. It’s in the culture.”
As Tortorella elaborates, in taking issue with my use of the word “boys,” the diminutive reduces men’s responsibility as allies in the #MeToo movement, rendering them as adolescents who don’t know any better.
“It’s about calling people out for who they are and what they are,” as he says of that responsibility. “The boys can’t be here for the women. The men have to be here for the women.”
Part of the task, then, is for men to recognize the limits of their perspective and educate themselves about the experiences of women and non-binary people, who confront varieties of sexual intimidation, coercion, and violence with unconscionable frequency. (An online poll conducted in February found that 81% of women have experienced sexual harassment; fully 1 in 6 American women will be victims of rape or attempted rape in their lifetimes, according to RAINN.) It’s a challenge even Younger, which is ahead of the pop cultural curve in highlighting the issue, might need to improve on.