Drop the Sex Strikes and Hollywood Boycotts: We Need to Think More Carefully About Abortion Bill Protests
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On Tuesday night, Alabama’s state senate made history by passing a bill that will effectively ban abortion in just about all cases—including rape or incest—proving that this, to quote the great John Oliver, is the hill those senators are willing to die on. The only exception to the ban would be if a woman’s health were at serious risk, which is hardly reassuring given that this vague phrasing doesn’t specify who gets to determine what’s harmful to a woman’s body. Because judging by the demographic makeup of the senators who passed the bill—25 white men—the folks who are actually impacted by this matter won’t get any say at all.
Republican Gov. Kay Ivey signed the bill into law on Wednesday night, and its swift movement through the legal pipeline has been something akin to watching a drunk bro crowdsurf: cringeworthy, panic-inducing, and headed toward an inevitable shit show, where somebody gets hurt and no one wants to take the blame. Alabama’s decision also comes on the heels of other headline-making bills-turned-law, most notably Georgia’s so-called “heartbeat” bill, which was signed by Gov. Brian Kemp just last Tuesday and is set to go into effect Jan. 1, 2020. Kentucky, Mississippi, and Ohio already have similar legislation in place.
Given the apocalyptic nature of these last few days, then, it’s only fitting that those with a platform are trying to find ways to voice their outrage, and to organize movements to show lawmakers that there will be consequences for their actions. Over the weekend, actress Alyssa Milano tweeted to encourage women to come together in a “sex strike” to protest Georgia’s newly passed abortion law. “Our reproductive rights are being erased,” she wrote. “Until women have legal control over our own bodies we just cannot risk pregnancy. JOIN ME by not having sex until we get bodily autonomy back.”
Though Milano’s intentions were undoubtedly good, her suggestion of a “sex strike” is inherently sexist in and of itself, which is harmful to the idea of gender equality that she’s been pushing for in her advocacy work with the #MeToo movement. What her “strike” suggests is that sex is a thing women give to men as a “reward,” and that they themselves aren’t deserving of pleasure; that in any heterosexual, sexual relationship, a woman’s role is to provide while a man’s role is to receive. Given that the recent bills portray women as little more than sperm depositories and baby-making machines, it’s not exactly progressive to suggest that women feed into this reductive narrative. Women do not exist solely for procreation or the pleasures of man. “Self-denial and abstinence for some sort of gain is the antithesis of a sexually empowered world,” one commenter wrote.